Healing Your Soul

Do you sometimes have thoughts you can’t control? Do you find yourself reacting to certain situations in self-punishing or hurtful ways? Do you sometimes feel stressed, anxious or depressed? Do you sometimes think that nobody cares?

If your answer to any of these questions is “Yes,” you are like many Christians; you suffer from symptoms of an unhealed soul. These symptoms are the voice of your soul crying out for help—crying out for rightness—crying out for God’s love.

When we as Christians do not understand this, our lives can be frustrating, confusing and depressing. After all, we are Christians. We are born again. The Bible tells us that we are supposed to be joyful and loving. Jesus promised us life and life more abundant. Yet, sins and weights still pull us down. Our relationships with self, others and God are sabotaged.

But, take heart. There is hope! Understanding (1) how God created you, (2) how Satan uses lies to mess with God’s plan and (3) how God made a way for His truth to replace the lies, will help you become an active participant in the healing journey.

How God Created Us

God is a triune being; He is Father Son and Holy Spirit. And God created us in His image. We are of three parts—spirit, soul and body. First Thessalonians 5:23 tells us, “Now may the God of peace Himself sanctify you completely; and may your whole spirit, soul, and body be preserved blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.”

Your body is the physical part of yourself. It keeps you alive on earth and gives the hidden parts of yourself—your spirit and soul—a resting place in this world. First Corinthians 6:19 says, “Your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you.”

Just like your body connects you to earth, your spirit connects you to heaven. When you accept Jesus, the Holy Spirit comes in to live in your spirit and you are born again. Your spirit is now full of God. Romans 8:16 says, “The Spirit Himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God.”

Your soul is the link between your body and your spirit. It is the house for your mind, will and emotions—your nature. When you accept Jesus in your spirit, your soul does not automatically change and take on God’s nature. Adam’s old nature still fills your soul. It is what is in your soul (not what is in your spirit) that determines the way you think, the emotions you have and how you interact with the world. When you feel depressed, your body shows it. When you are full of joy, your body shows that. Your body shows the world the hidden contents of your soul. Proverbs 23:7 says, “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.”

It is the soul part of us Christians that is messed up. But why? What is the nature of the disease that afflicts the mind, will and emotions?

Lies Distort the Soul

Our mind, will and emotions are messed up because our souls are not filled with God. We do not know and experience God as He really is—full of love for us.

God created you to be loved. Every soul has a deep desire and need to be loved. This basic fact has been proven over and over again in psychological research. Children deprived of loving relationships early in life—such as those raised in understaffed orphanages or by abusive caregivers—suffer emotional and relational problems throughout life. We humans were created for love.

“God is love” (1 John 4:16). If my spirit is filled with and my mind, will and emotions know His love, then my body will radiate that to the world. Satan does not want that! The enemy of our souls does not want us looking like Jesus! That would spell his ultimate defeat. Satan is often referred to as the “father of lies because he fills our soul with lies—lies about our God of love.

Especially when we are young and vulnerable—when our developing brains are most malleable—he infects us with lies. Because he begins planting these lies before we even have words, they stay hidden beneath conscious awareness, in the framework of the mind.

As the father of lies, Satan uses early experiences and traumatic events to shape our brains around one basic lie: “You are not loved.” Each individual carries a different derivative of that lie: “You are not loved because …” What comes after the “because” differs for each person: “because you did ______,” “because you didn’t try hard enough,” “because you are irreparably bad at the core.” Satan is creative in his evil scheming to keep us from the love of God.

All of us were raised by imperfect parents (who were raised by imperfect parents, who in turn were also raised by imperfect parents … clear back to Adam and Eve). In order to survive and make sense of the ways we were brought up, our young minds often formulate reasons for why we were treated in hurtful ways.

For example, a young girl may feel neglected and unloved … because she feels unattractive … because she feels she can’t do enough good things to earn recognition … because she feels she is inherently and shamefully unworthy. Any one of these “becauses” gives rationale for her feeling neglected and unloved.

Patterns of thought developed in childhood persist in adulthood. The girl who feels she is unloved because she is unattractive may grow into a young woman who is overly concerned with her looks or who believes she is so unattractive that she lets herself become grossly overweight. In either case, she lives out the lie she believes.

This is a simplified example, but it serves to illustrate the point. Early experiences affect brain circuitry, which in turn affects thought/feeling/behavioral patterns. In this way the brain is wired by early experiences to reflect the lies. It is not like we were taught these lies; they were not hung, like facts, on existing brain structure. It is more like we caught the lies; they actually became part of the brain structure itself.

And tragically, the lie-based way our minds came to understand our early experiences colors our understanding of God and how He relates to us. We see self, others and God through the darkened filter of the lies.

If the girl believed growing up, “My dad would love me if I were pretty,” she will attribute the same to her heavenly Father and think “God would love me if I were attractive.” Then she might try and try to look nice—all the while unconsciously refusing God’s freely offered, unconditional love.

Psalm 51:5 gives a concise summary of the problem: “Behold, I was brought forth in iniquity, and in sin my mother conceived me.”

Lies are the problem, but what is the cure? How do we cooperate with God to let Him heal our soul?

Restoration of the Soul

Just as God had a cure for your spirit, He has a cure for your soul. When we accept Jesus by faith, our spirit is born again. When we come to know and believe God as He really is, and let Him into all the hidden, secret parts of our life, our soul is renewed. Getting Satan’s lies out and God’s love in is what healing of the soul is all about. Knowing how much God loves you gives you joy, peace, value and self-worth.

There is hope. Psalm 51 continues on with verses 6 and 7, “Behold, You desire truth in the inward parts, and in the hidden part You will make me to know wisdom. Purge me with hyssop … and I shall be whiter than snow. Make me hear joy and gladness.”

Romans 12:2 encourages us, “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind that you might prove what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” When our minds—our souls—are transformed so that we know the love of God, we will show His love to the world.

But transformation of the mind—changing brain circuitry—is not easy. Old brain programming has to be rewired with truth. Just because we can sing the words, “Jesus loves me this I know …” does not mean we know the God of love.

So how is it that transformation happens? Scripture gives us clear direction to continually open our mind, will and emotions to God. Be as honest with Him as you can. Ask and trust Him to shine His light on all areas of your life. David prayed, “Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my anxieties; and see if there is any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting” (Psalm 139:23–24).

Here are a few ideas to encourage you in your journey:

Just being aware that problems in your soul spring from lies crafted to keep you from enjoying a love relationship with God will give you courage and strength to fight those lies.
God wants to free you from the sins in your life and the worries you carry. Knowing the kindness of the Lord will allow you to repent of these hurtful ways so that God can bring His life into the unhealed parts of your life.
As best you are able, surrender to God and commit your healing into His hands. Tell Him you are powerless, but that He is all-powerful. Ask Him to show you the lies as you can handle them. He will not overwhelm you by revealing the deceptions all at once. Ask Him as your Counselor to replace the lies with the truth of His love for you.
Be aware that situations you face in everyday life may open old wounds. Something as small as a wrong look from a stranger or being late to an event can trigger a cascade of hurtful emotions. As a general rule, if the emotions last more than three minutes and are outside the range of what would normally be expected in the situation, a lie lurks in the subconscious. Hurtful thoughts, feelings and behaviors are the voice of the soul crying, “Help! Something is not right. I am not loved.”
When negative thoughts, feelings or behaviors give clue to a hidden lie, take some time with God and trace the emotions back as far as God lets you. He may lead you to the initial event(s) that provided the hurtful environment for the deception to take root. If you get an image of an event, let God into that memory. He was there loving you despite whatever traumatic circumstances Satan used to perpetuate his lies. Let God show you how He is reaching back in time, healing that hurt and loving you.
Lies are like landing strips for enemy aircraft; they allow demons access. As a believer, demons do not have access to your spirit and they cannot possess your soul. But they can take up residence in areas of the soul darkened by lies. when you invite God to search you, deception is exposed by his light. Demons cannot return to a place filled with truth and light.
If a wrong thought comes into your head, replace it with the exact opposite truth. Use the Word of God. If the voice in your head says, “You are worthless,” say, “No, I am precious in the sight of God. The Bible tells me I was redeemed with the precious blood of Christ (see 1 Peter 1:19); that makes me valuable!” Continually thinking and feeling with truth—continually living in God’s love—will rewire the brain.
Be obedient to God’s leading in the healing process. If you think God is telling you to do something, and that something is backed by Scripture, do it. Sometimes memories will require that you forgive someone or ask someone for forgiveness.
Sometimes working these issues through with a counselor, pastor or trusted friends is helpful.
Meditate on God. Let Him say to you, “I love you, (your name).” If you feel yourself resisting His words, voice your resistance honestly to Him. Let the “buts” come. “But Jesus, how could you love me? I did …” “But Jesus, how could you love me? I am …” And let Him answer each excuse with the truth of His love for you.
Healing will take time. There is no hurry. All the while you will be living and growing in an abiding relationship with God. Jesus is in you and you cannot be separated from Him. As He gradually removes the lies, your soul will come to be filled to overflowing with the love of God.

Don’t stop this process once enough of the lies and their hurts are gone so that you feel OK. God wants you to live continually in His love. He intends for His love in your spirit to continually flow through and purify your soul. He wants His love to pour out of your body to others. You were designed to be a spirit-soul-body channel for the love of God.

Go child of God! Give yourself to God and let Him replace Satan’s lies with His truth. Only believe. Believe in God as He really is—full of love for you.